Can Philosophy Help You With Relationships?



There is a counsellor philosophy that is a method solving life’s ups and downs:  change.

One prescribed method is the PEACE method which is outlined in the book, Plato Not Prozac! by Lou Marinoff, PH.D.

Having an interest in philosophy seems to have spilled over into other areas of my life.

I suggest being a life long student in all your affairs.

In my case, I am curious about everything and there by developed a generalist attitude towards knowledge, life and my day to day affairs.

To put it in a nut shell, can applying philosophy to relationships help solve problem?

I believe we do it all the time.

To establish a set of rules or principles to live by is very virtuous and somewhat frowned on in today’s society.

But to be curious and want more out of life has given me license to see the sense in being more philosophical about relationships.

I am not advocating philosophy as a way to practice living with your significant other, but philosophy has much to give to us all in one form or another.




Secular World And Nonviolence

M. K. Gandhi made A case and point for a place for all regardless of sex, religion or race.

MartIn Luther King Jr. made another case to stop military action to help the poor.

This is not anti government or anti religion,

This is not anti sex or martyrdom.

Had these men not been assassinated the world would be learning more truth and love to prevent hatred and exclusion and other passive violent behaviors like oppression.

To truly and lovingly practice Nonviolence can help eliminate our major problems.

Happiness Is…

Another cup of coffee, and a chance to finish what I love to do.

The beauty in nature and a chance to appreciate it by walking through a national park or hiking up a trail in the bush.

Being able to read, write and do math.

A wayward smile or a knowing glance, when I connect with strangers on a morning walk.

Believing in myself, others and the place I live.

Doing what I think is right and being friends with like minded people.

Doing my job, making a living and when I have a moment to assess all the good-bad-and ugly, I can still say it’s better to do this job than whatever seems better when I am upset or unstable.

Keeping my feet firmly on the ground and my mind firmly practicing ways to maintain peace of mind.

Exercising all the ways that keep my mind and body in shape!

Being part of a greater community to explore, work, volunteer and honor the people who make it work!

The list goes on and on , no wonder I am so grateful.

On the flipside, I have grief, sadness, depression, loss, harm to myself and others.

There is not always a simple way to solve my problems.

I miss out on so much, no university education, no good job, lots of debt, like everyone, I struggle with the ups and downs that rattle me.

Yet, mostly I avoid the major pitfalls, I get help from friends and relatives.

But no answer for the stuff that goes wrong.

At times life is tragic and requires lots of time and resources to recover.

Many things require practice, upkeep and improvements to the existing ways I act and cope with circumstances.

The more I live, the more I live, despite all the ups and downs because I strive to overcome all the things that stop me and damage me.

Obviously, it takes a little more to mend a life and it is wonderful when I help myself and give/receive help.

Not exactly an answer, but an acknowledgement that it’s been worth all the trouble.

(So far, I’m hanging in for the long run!)

Processed Spirituality (Spiritual Junk Food)

Empty affirmations, multiple mantrums, no practice, no peace of mind…

With all the technology, and multiple distractions from all the devices, no wonder there is a lack of commitment to any meaningful path or way to be grounded and experience actual spiritual growth.

The cellular phone is meant to be wired into our lifestyle and for all intensive purposes addictive and permanently altering our ability to become “awakened” or self-actualized by a healthy discovery of who we are.

Peace and quite are not wanted or even soothing, without constant access we can not control our increasing need for constant stimulation.

Are we paying attention to our family and relationships? Work?, Do we have hobbies?

Do we even care about sleep, exercise and eating balanced meals?

Where is our purpose and direction?

There is the constant need for work to acquire the ‘modern lifestyle’.

Do we even know how to rest anymore?

Plant Therapy

Abele Green is my 15 year old Easter Lilly that needs a haircut.

She gets equal work for equal pay.

I have the responsibility to water, weed and repot her.

She keeps me honest and freshens up my place.

A reminder of my friendship with my mother, I try to treat her with TLC…

The Tao Of Reading And Writing

There is only one place for me, it knows neither time nor space.

It is the way, a river of gratitude.

Time stops on the edge of eternity.

The sights and sounds around me become less and less important.

My writing and reading become both the same but different.

I’m not asking ‘why’ anymore…

I just go with the flow.

Every piece of culture and life bring light to the words that flow onto the page of my device.

I am floating along with sentence after sentence.

The ideas emerge as a new form or landscape.

As I read, I call out poetry, novels, news articles and many other kinds of writing.

But are my lack of sensations or feelings or consciousness part of the experience?

I am in the zone… reading and writing.

Yes, I Am Willing To Forgive And Forget

Truth, no one has ever gotten to know me as good as I know myself…

Except for the loving and caring understanding of my friends and family.

The past is full of connections that bridge my present, future and the future beyond my life.

I am willing and able to forgive and forget because of my strong tie to family and friends. They are my rock to all that may be.

I still vaguely feel fears that wisp up from time to time, but my love and connection with others bring more joy to life and the life of others.

I sincerely let go of the past mistakes and embrace the ‘joy still felt’ with people who share a great narrative from our history and shared life experiences in all we say and do.

I love our epic stories!