Loosing power can be felt like impotency,
Embarrassing and a lose of confidence is normal,
Fear is normal, because it is the truest keenest way to feel a lose of power or more like a lose of control.
The adjustment is full of lingering unwanted feelings.
The opportunity to face these feeling requires awareness of aversion and a great way to use the proper use of impressions.
Don’t harm , see what harm happens and try to stop it, it’s not easy, but facing strong averse feeling happens little by little over the years.
Sometimes being aware will take time and extra effort.
Together with family and friends or others willing to be supportive can help us to be willing to change.