This dialogue is about two characters that represent a fixed mindset and a flexible one. Going from a ‘now’ mindset to a ‘not yet’ one is an improvement. With encouragement and practice we can learn almost anything. A person of average intelligence can progress through health, money, exercise, relationships and business. A growth mindset reminds us that reguardless of ability in life, anyone can improve. But in a relationship, a fixed mindset may led to a break up. All give and no take will show up sooner or later. Without some collaboration and cooperation the relationship will end in a failure.
Giver: I will give you encouragement and support while you improve in life.
Taker: Good, I want more now, but I can’t get it when I spend all my time and energy on you.
G: You can loose weight slowly by practicing the good habits that you discover. Keep working for progress and accept a ‘not yet’ mindset.
T: My weight is my concern, don’t tell me how to run my life.
G: I believe in you. My mindset is all about ‘not yet’. I am willing to continue with you and invest in our relationship. I may not get support from you at present. But I believe you are the one.
T: Well, you are not the one. I realize now, I can never love you. I must move on to someone who can give me a 100%.
G: Wth my ‘not yet’ attitude, I realize you will not give anything to the relationship. But now that you want to break it off, I am still willing to meet you more than half way. I will give you 100%. I just ask you to try a ‘not yet’ mindset.
T: You are a crazy person. I’m going with someone who doesn’t expect me to give until I reach my goal.
G: I can see you must have a fixed mindset in this relationship.
T: I’m fixed and focused on my needs, now. You can’t help by expecting me to put out for you when I am aiming for my success. I want more money, a better weight, health and fitness, a better business.
G: I support you 100%. Why can’t you support me to do the same thing?
T: Because, I take what is given and I take what is mine. I work hard. Don’t you believe in me?
G: I’m afraid you are loosing me here. I need support from you, at least a little for a start. You only act selfishly and without concern for our relationship. I need to move on to find someone who can support me more.