When we hate ourselves and others we say and do things we would never do without impaired judgement.
When we love ourselves and others we say and do things we would never do without impaired judgement.
The point is we can feel all our feelings in most situations without doing any harm. But it is possible to loose control in almost any situation given the right circumstances.
Blame is just another feeling like love and hate. There is no such thing as a bad feeling. But loosing control is hard to do. Feelings do become unmanageable.
Sometimes we do make mistakes and have accidents.
So, we learn to accept our past, mistakes and accidents. We even learn to accept our lose of control.
We practice forgiving and forgetting in all our affairs.
Developing a healthy set of behaviours is a work in progress. We change and live, learn and experience. We use a lot of strength and hope. And support and help are welcome watchwords that describe the way we live through and with change. We learn to open up to the way we grow together.