No it’s not having a good time or being rewarded in anyway.

As a matter a fact, she or he or any mature adult can be happy living with the good, bad and the ugly.

It is hard won through experience at getting control over yourself and learning to tolerate or at least feel the pain and eventually process the experience.

Life is a struggle with lots of mistakes and numbing pain, blocked out memory and an array of problems and stuff.

Sometimes it’s a serious disease or other dysfunctional experience to grieve or worse.

And all the while people still want to live,

Even with all the pain, life taking thoughts, some part, with enough help and support is hanging on to life and limb.