Only a teacher (of some 35 years) would know ‘how’ to do it.
It, the thing you want to hold onto will be your life. Or at least in the broadest sense of the word.
People like parents, teachers, adults and others have the experience and detachment to know that no one can do this for you, but good people can support and guide you.
In this case, none other than a magnificent teacher and scholar will show you the way.
He is also famous, he may hold your attention long enough to send you off in the right direction.
If you are curious, watch the vid bellow.