There Is No Safety Net

People live cheque to cheque.

We all do with less and less and it costs more and more.

We are falling into a big hole.

But people keep at it, even with these large shifts in lifestyle.

We need to change the way we are falling into this trap.

Awareness is the first step.

At some point we need to take action.

We need to find a solution.

This is why people are going bankrupt.

External Authority

I think about failure and success when I evaluate power and authority.

To do this effectively with Authority is an exercise in honesty to oneself.

No one wants to admit their failure in growing up, school, sports, relationships.

As adults we use external authority in society to follow commands or orders.

As adults we all follow orders, question orders and stand up to external authority when we are resolving disputes.

How is that working for you?

We all make mistakes and some haunt us for a very long time.

We are restructuring External Authority from the inside out.

A few important changes are happening in our society with the humanities: women, race, L.G.B.T.,Patriarchal Authority, Climate Change, Globalization and more…

It is time to think about external authority, especially our knowledge, understanding, and use/experience in our society today.

Wikipedia is a good place to start:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Authority?wprov=sfti1

Can Philosophy Help You With Relationships?

 

 

There is a counsellor philosophy that is a method solving life’s ups and downs:  change.

One prescribed method is the PEACE method which is outlined in the book, Plato Not Prozac! by Lou Marinoff, PH.D.

Having an interest in philosophy seems to have spilled over into other areas of my life.

I suggest being a life long student in all your affairs.

In my case, I am curious about everything and there by developed a generalist attitude towards knowledge, life and my day to day affairs.

To put it in a nut shell, can applying philosophy to relationships help solve problem?

I believe we do it all the time.

To establish a set of rules or principles to live by is very virtuous and somewhat frowned on in today’s society.

But to be curious and want more out of life has given me license to see the sense in being more philosophical about relationships.

I am not advocating philosophy as a way to practice living with your significant other, but philosophy has much to give to us all in one form or another.

 

 

Love

Vincent Van Gogh Vs. Marcus Aurelius: Offense And Harm

In this dialogue two famous people argue about Offense and Harm.

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Vincent: “Sorrow” is so beautiful. I don’t understand how such a depiction of beauty can offend my co-worker.

Marcus: Truly, you must understand, you have drawn a picture of a pregnant nude woman and displayed it in a public place, your office space, your work office. Your co-worker, a woman, needs you to take down this piece of work, unless you comply with this request, you will be relieved of your job.

V: The sense is that my office has my drawing displayed for the pleasure of myself and others. I can no more take offense to its truth or beauty, than I can take offense to breathing.

M: I am the supervisor. Under the new laws for sexual harassment, it is my job to state the facts and make sure you decide weather to comply or I will be forced to fire you.

V: If you were not such a bore, you would see my situation. I am suffering from a sense of injustice.

M: I only see too well that the root of your problem. You believe you are unjustly being forced to remove your artwork.

V: I do not want to feel angry and so self-betrayed, but you give me little choice in this matter.

M: You are at a cross road. You can look at your situation in a philosophical manner. The matter at hand demands you pay attention and seek to understand yourself. You obviously take some offense. Have you been harmed? Have you been injured physically? Against your will? If so, you can not be helped.

V: No, I retain no physical harm. I am offended.

M: Good. Because in Rome, we understand the difference. But here we no longer have sayings that help us keep a balance with such problems. You took offense to this women and this office, and me. Because our system rewards such behaviors. Even if you had sued the company and the woman, you still could loose your job. Society is protecting herself, not the individual. You need not take offense to her.

V: How? I am the creator of this art. I am the guilty party.

M: I want to help you contemplate this situation. This could just as easily been a centerfold from playboy. Although, a picture of this nature is clearly provocative. Some, still consider it art. What do you say?

V: Justices is blind. And yes, I see the subtleties in the playboy image Vs. art. I see my co-worker has a different taste in art than I do.

M: Yes, she definitely does. Do you want to loose this job to maintain your sense of pride?

V: My taste in art, is a sense of pride? Of course, it is, but how can you expect me to be so sensitive?

M: I believe we approach the crux of the situation. I wish you to go speak with your artist friend this weekend and attempt to understand.

As Vincent talks things over with his fellow artist (Paul Gauguin)-he becomes acutely aware how their own obsession with the form-a nude woman, might be offensive to another woman.

V: Paul tells me we are both guilty of offending women with our art work. That is to say, in this specific circumstance I am more aware of my co-workers point of view. After much contemplation, I realize my pride is not worth loosing a good job.

M: I am glad you are willing to change your painting. Would you try another suggestion which may help you and the office avoid other similar problems.

V: You want me to stop painting women?

M: No, of course not. But I would like you to consider making a top ten list of your work. Talk it over with your co-worker . Try to come to some agreement on a less offensive choice.

V: That I can do. I have many subjects.

M: Starry Starry Night?

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Cognizant Dissonance

Are you turned on to your device like a slot machine?

Tune out or turn off, unplug from your device, often, for many hours each and every day.

Practice stopping your device. Practice being without your device.

Don’t let your device become a habit.

Don’t play it like a slot machine.

Don’t act on a craving to use it.

Don’t waste any precious time on your device.

Remember to become aware when you are using your devices in unhealthy ways.

You don’t need a device.

Secular World And Nonviolence

M. K. Gandhi made A case and point for a place for all regardless of sex, religion or race.

MartIn Luther King Jr. made another case to stop military action to help the poor.

This is not anti government or anti religion,

This is not anti sex or martyrdom.

Had these men not been assassinated the world would be learning more truth and love to prevent hatred and exclusion and other passive violent behaviors like oppression.

To truly and lovingly practice Nonviolence can help eliminate our major problems.