What Is Being Mistaken?

I am sure good at being wrong.

I lie to myself:  cheat, steel and beg and borrow.

I judge myself in the wrong way.

I miss my own mistakes by being too close to myself.


Here are the facts:  age, height, weight, education, how I grew up, etc.

Here is the law:  my beliefs in how everything is being.

I make a lot of assumptions based on the stuff I call facts and beliefs.

Sometimes they reach up and bite me.  And/or someone who is engaged with me.


I’ve always wanted a car.

But I don’t want to make the money to buy it.

My mistake will be, I will end up with the money down the road:  I am going to use it for something better.

I still don’t have the money.


Most of my mistakes work out for the best.

I learn things about myself.

And I learn not to make the same mistakes.

I tend to grow out of my mistakes.


What have I learnt about being mistaken?

I need to make mistakes to grow.

I don’t like making mistakes at the time.

Sometimes mistakes do more harm than good.

Being Hateful

Sometimes it is faster burning, this is the adult version of a tantrum.  The hate is short-lived in the moment.

Other times, it is slower burning, something happened to the person, and depending on the event and subsequent training:  the person may act without others being aware of the intensions to harm others whenever it is necessary to get what they want from them.

Usually, we call the above, loosing control over our better selves.  The base animal instincts to survive are much cruder than the higher instincts to live being our best selves.

Sometimes the dark side wins and we slide into criminal behaviour.  The longer we survive like a criminal, the more likely we will join this kind of society.  It is full of dog eat dog behaviour:  lying, cheating, steeling, fighting to inflect fear, anger, physical harm, wonton destruction of materials, eventually harming people enough to persuade and manipulate them into submission.

Being hateful only gets sicker beyond this level.  Education is the best medicine.  As counter productive as it seems on the surface, the more we know the healthier we potentially become.

It is always best to forgive and forget.  Obviously, a hard lesson to learn.


A Writer: an attractive being

Witness the living and tell a story about it.
Tell the truth.
Struggle for facts and figures to describe the art in life.
Being in love or hate with writing is just like it is for any career person (I need to be more aware of this guideline.)
(Got to break and go into the grocery for this weeks supplies)
Writing research is a lot like grocery shopping but stay away from the junk food.
Once the design and engineering is complete, building can commence. Who wants to buy one of my bridges (poems)!

Selling and marketing is another big part of being a good scribbler.  (Remember it is only worth so much and don’t sell too short).

Well after having all the trouble cutting and pasting on this app, it is good to be done.

Being Willing, Able, and Happy

A good set of skills as an individual will strengthen the group.

And a strong group makes a good job and attracts future jobs.

Teachers/work coaches have been training groups or companies for a longtime.  It is more helpful if you find a teacher outside of your company with a co-worker and prepare to learn the skills that will make you a better employee.

The family is a normal place you develop these skills to be good at everything in your life.  But a formal reassessment of yourself and family in a group you trust will lead you to a better place with your family, work, and the community at large.

Lastly, when you return to the family it will be best to charge yourself to renew your individual skills and your group skills with family, work and the community.

The kind of drive to self-improvement will just make life whole.  You will find every advantage to adopt a student attitude and teacher attitude in all your affairs.  And it is a great idea to take out time to find the beliefs or principles that work best in your lifestyle.

I am a big believer in students and teachers from all walks of life.  There are no better set of tools than reading, writing and journaling.  I am passionate about self discovery for life long learning in all my affairs:  photography, mountain biking, hiking, philosophy, work, family, and friends and community (being a citizen of the world)

Being Happy

Knowing yourself enough to do the right thing.

First and foremost, being your own best friend in all your affairs.

Second, do no harm to people places or things.  This means to learn, be a student and be a teacher, and practice good habits that allow these to become ‘outcomes’ in your life.

Lastly, be mindful and present for a well balanced life.

Happiness is a very expensive habit.  It will cost you a lot of time and energy to produce a mostly small quantity.  And like lightening, you can not capture it in a bottle.  But you can turn yourself into a lightening rod to receive it whenever it becomes available.

The storm of happiness usually emanates from people like His Holiness the Dalai Lama, not only because he is a worthy public figure, or because he wrote “The Art of Happiness in a Troubled World”, or because I read the book and try to emulate him.  Or because I like M. K. Gandhi and David Suzuki.  It is because it is ‘truth and beauty’ to give happiness.

If you have an authentic love for someone and choose to copy the way they are happy, you will find the way to project  happiness to the universe.

This is why it is so important to have a set of beliefs and a way to practice them in your life.

Say my set of beliefs are all placebo effect happiness, and have no real way to produce happiness in my life.  I would be a pretty foolish person with a little bit of happiness.  But, I also believe in being a good skeptic, practical, determined, and keeping a balanced lifestyle.  I also budget how and why I get the happiness I have like a student doing a simple science experiment.

I know I can’t fix other people, put I have a passion for people, happiness, truth and beauty, and many more (beliefs).

Anyway, I digress, I prefer to stick to the point.

We make our own happiness.

Anxiety Of Being

Alone in a crowd, in the shower, in the bed, on the street, with another human being.

A gap in your reality that is disorientating with overwhelming thoughts and feeling.

Doubt about the universe and everything within it.

An absence of calm, rationality, love, peace, gentleness, faithfulness, joy, goodness, self-control and patience.

A strong desire to melt away.


A need to accept this feeling and to practice ways to help abate said ‘feeling’:  any sport will do, any person will do, chit-chat is best and a journal is good.


A paradoxical sense of being that encourages growing into more of your own human being.


You might have to read, write, dream, skeam, and be (about it)!

Courage To Be

Where does the inquiring mind travel?

Find your ‘why’, find your passion.

Find your ‘how’, find your reason.

Help ‘me’ now, find your meaning.


‘Happiness’ helps fill up the present with food for the soul.

‘Meaning’ does the same for the past and future.


Graze on being with music and stuff that distracts you from getting too anxious or serious.


Spend lots of time at work and play and being with others.


Be a student and find a teacher.


Goal:  when you are stuck in the muck, to have ten people willing to help you out.


Love life when you can.

Hate life when you must.

Don’t act impulsively on either.

Be your own best friend.  (Stand beside yourself and cheer!).


Remember, ‘optimism’ is a shinning beacon in the (internal) darkness.

Cram as much hope into everyday that your ‘locker’ will hold!


Run for one minute every day.

Smoke as much fresh air as your lungs can carry.


Smile to yourself when you’re practising mindfulness.

Laugh more at yourself than you do to others.